Introduction to Today I Cried

90% of men can agree with me that they were brought up under the impression that men don't cry. Whether that being in your family background (I myself have only seen my dad cry once and that was when I got lost in Marwell Zoo as a child) hanging around with your mates, television, books or even social media up until recently. The stereotypical idea is that a man is a man he doesn't cry, he's tough and nothing affects him.

This perception is very wrong, everyone feels sad, anxious, angry or like crap at some point. This is normal, no human is happy 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, if someone says they are then they're lying to themselves. However men don't tell anyone when they feel like this, they tend to lock it in a room in their mind and leave it there. I often see lots of pictures of phrases and what not on social media to show men that it's okay to cry and feel these emotions, but I noticed that while there is of course numbers and charities you can get in touch with, there isn't almost a "safe space" on the internet where men could vent anonymously.

We all are aware of the stats of male suicide, men are three times more likely to commit suicide than women in the UK and globally, suicide rates in men are just over twice as high as for women. The global suicide rate for men was at 13.9 per 100,000. Something has to change to stop this, especially in this current climate with the situation of COVID and lockdown, emotions are higher and being effected even more.

I hope that maybe this blog will help someone who is feeling these emotions and feels like they have no one to talk too or even raise more awareness and make people understand that men are allowed to show these emotions.

While I believe this is a good release you may not, this may not be your thing... don't let that get to you. There are many other ways you can get help, exercise is always a great example. I know you don't want to feel like a burden but your family and your friends are always there for you... if they're not then they are not a friend. If you aren't ready to unload on your friends or family that's okay there are charities you can get in touch with, they are trained and will be there for you no matter how big or small your problem is, they'll listen to you.

Some helpful charities/organisations that are here for you:


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